If the man you married still holds that special taste of his mother’s cooking in his heart, I think, even if you’re a chef, he’ll continue to wish it could be his mom cooking for him.
All children think their mothers are good cooks. Remember that he grew up with the taste of mom’s food! She made the best sandwiches and macaroni, brownies and chocolate cakes, and since all children are born sweet tooth, your husband were among those boys who became so fond of mom’s chocolates – a thing he will forever cherish in his heart.
There is something about mothers and sons so you simply will never measure up in his mind to that paragon who fixed his lunch every day. We women usually have very ambivalent feelings about our mothers. So it is hard for us to understand that mother/son thing. If you’ve seen that his mother’s baloney sandwiches were on the dry side, grab the opportunity! Make something better and impress your husband, but never tell him it’s better than her mother’s.
Don’t try to change his likes, you will never win. Play your cards by making him something different. If his mother makes stuffing out of Pepperidge Farm Croutons on their Thanksgiving turkey, don’t try to offer another recipe, make them a Thanksgiving dessert. If you’re sharing dinner with his mom, give all the credit to her mom.
Give all the credit to her mom
Even though she and your father in law had/have lots of time on their hands, discretionary income, and a car with only ten thousand miles on it. So when you want to go out for a lovely candlelight dinner, he continues to see her in his mind’s eye, happily making pot roast and glazing carrots. Saving money. And then he turns to you and says, “I don’t understand why we can’t just eat here. Why don’t you change out of your work clothes and just whip up something while I have a beer?” :=)